The hearts yearning….

 “Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray. In the silence, there is a sacred mystery, a path that shows the way not with words but with the heart’s yearning.”

    — Rumi

Connections….

Not my words…but beautiful ones none the less….

“The truth is — genuine connection is ease. It is peace. When you find it you will know. You will feel seen, you will feel like you are being mirrored back to yourself, like you are discovering the shadow of your own heart in another human being.

Slowly, through loving the right people, you will come to realize that the human beings who are meant for you in this world will not exhaust you, or hollow you out, or leave you feeling like you are hard to love. Slowly, you will come to realize that you do not have to romanticize the things in this life that hurt. You do not have to run towards the fire. Love does not have to feel like a fight, does not have to feel like battle, does not have to wound.

Slowly, you will learn how to lay down your arms. How to walk away from those who will only ever love you in halves. Slowly, you will learn that you cannot love someone into loving you, or being ready, if they are not. You cannot love someone into their potential. You cannot close their hands around your heart if they are not willing to hold it themselves. You have to let them go. You have to focus on the people in your life who bring you back home to yourself. You have to focus on standing up for that kind of connection, on honoring that calm, because it exists. It exists.

And I hope you learn to trust that, because when you come across it, when you ultimately experience it, it feels as if you are standing at a door you finally have the keys for. You enter it with ease. There is no fumbling through your jacket pocket trying to find the right way in. There is no desperately reaching into your bag trying to uncover the point of access. You are no longer banging your fists against the door, asking to be invited in. You walk through. Soundlessly. Softly. Relief washes over you. You take off your shoes. You hang your coat in the closet. You put on a pot of coffee. You’re home. You’re home.”

Safe spaces

Who believes in tarot cards? I never did…then I had a reading earlier this year. 

Apparently, according to my tarot reading I have the ability to provide safe spaces for people - somewhere they can come, offload and be themselves. What an honour to be able to do that. 

I should also do more of the things I enjoy - whatever they may be….tick. (That is going to be an ongoing mission). 

But the question I had at the end was….if I can create safe spaces for other people….then where do I find my safe space? 

Simple….do more of what I enjoy, have faith, and my safe space will come….. thank god says I - because life is a pretty lonely place without a safe space in it! 

Strangely, unexpectedly, hopefully - a recent encounter left me feeling just that….as though I’d found a safe space, a place where I can be me and be valued. That feeling is rare, let’s hope I can revisit it soon. 

Here’s to safe spaces and being valued in this life x